Regression; its place in healing.

Along my path of healing I have done quite a lot of past life regression and I have gained a lot from it; so I thought it a good idea to share my understanding and beliefs about this interesting healing technique.

When I mention regression people get all excited and ask if I was anyone important or famous?  Sadly I have to tell them that I wasn’t and there is little chance of them having being anyone famous either.  This is all down to maths and nothing esoteric at all; if you think about it, of all the people who have lived, what percentage of people are famous and important?  Very very few!  This means that it is more likely that we have been peasants, servants, workers, soldiers and worse.  But that’s fine; we have all had a part in making the world what it is now.

Once we get past that and the hopes of an ego boost we can look at what we can gain from past life regression. 

Of course, to believe in past lives we have to believe in reincarnation and with that comes the idea that there is a part of us that is the same in all the lives we have lived.  This part of us carries information from life to life and part of that information is often called Karma.  For me this is not about punishment for past crimes but more the lessons we need to learn.  Often this comes in the form of dis-ease.  This could be a physical illness or it could be beliefs or sensitivities that stem from something that has happened in a past life.

We can work on healing the situation as it is now and often that is sufficient, but sometimes a deeper understanding is needed and this is where regression comes in.  We need to visit the time that the issue first started and heal that. This will then trigger a domino reaction through all affected lives through to the one we are aware of now.  The healing gained this way can be profound.

So, why don’t we just use this method straight away?

One of the problems we face when working with regression is that until we are there we have no idea where we are going.  Remember how I said it is unlikely that we were anyone famous?  It’s also unlikely that we will be going back to an easy life either.  Up until the last 100 or so years life for the common person has been hard, and the further back you go the harder and more brutal it gets.  If we are then looking for what is most likely a traumatic event we end up having a high chance of going into something pretty grim.  All of this means we need to be sure that this is the most appropriate method to work on this situation and that we have tried everything else first.  We also need to be prepared to experience things as if they are happening to us now. 
This can be like opening Pandora's box; whatever is let out of the box cannot be put back and forgotten.

Of course, once we bear all of this in mind we start to think about the other question that often comes up when we are talking about regression; can I do it because I am curious?

Yes, you can do it for curiosity’s sake, but do you really want to?  It is possible that if you are not tracking something that needs healing you may stumble upon a life that was blissful, I am sure we all had them, but do we want to take the risk?  If we are working alone and purely to feed a whim; we may come back with more than we bargained for.  Once the box with the memory is opened we cannot forget it.  Traumatic memories do fade, but if we don’t have to take them on board then maybe we should leave them in the box.

All of this means we need to work in a controlled environment with someone we trust totally and for a purpose.  All of my regression work has been done with a wonderful lady I have been seeing monthly for nearly 10 years for healings.  I trust this woman completely and there have been times when that trust has been leant upon greatly.  There has been more than one regression where I was lost to my fear; I could not get back to the here and now on my own.  There was also one that I went into knowing it was going to be very tough,  without this wonderful lady standing by me ready to help I don’t know what would have happened.

I am not trying to put people off regression, or come across as someone special because I have done it.  I am merely trying to make people aware of the truth about regression and that it needs to be treated with respect.  It can provide amazing experiences and the healing gained can be fantastic, but we need to go into it with our eyes open!

I personally don’t offer regression as part of my healing practice as I am acutely aware of the responsibility I would take on walking with someone into their personal soul history.  If you want to do it I can put you in touch with my friend but unless you have a very good reason I can assure you it is unlikely to happen.

Visit my website to learn about my healing practice  

http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/

Our health is our responsibility!

So many people talk about how their doctors are not helping them deal with their health issues.  Either they are being brushed off by the doctors, waiting weeks or months for an appointment or, when they do get heard the result is less than what we were looking for.

Since the formalisation of medicine we have been indoctrinated into looking to the medical profession to fix all our woes; whether it is an antibiotic to cure a cough, pain killers for our aches or anti-depressants to make us happy.  So many of us are finding this just isn’t enough.  We are also discovering that many of the problems we are suffering from are considered myths by the medical profession.  They just aren’t interested.

This is leaving many people suffering, either living with situations that seem to have no treatment, popping pills that just store up trouble for the future, or masking the real problem with pharmaceutical sticking plasters.

This conditioning we have to hand over our health to a man in a white coat has blocked our ability to look elsewhere for ways to improve our lives.  We think we aren’t able to do anything without being told it is ok to do so.

Now that we have more access to information some people are starting to take responsibility by researching and taking information to their doctor.  This is great, but we are still handing our power over to someone else.  If that doctor still disregards it or refuses to diagnose or write a prescription we are back at square one.  The only difference now is we know what we have.

What if we peeked outside the box that is this conditioning and started to see if there was anything else that could be done?  This is when we find complimentary therapies waiting to help us take back our power and our health.

Now, don’t think for one second that I am saying there is a cure for everything.  I know that at this stage humanity isn’t ready to let go of ill health and all the things that cause it, but there is so much out there that can be done to make our lives so much better.

The most accessible option is the effect our diet and the nutrients we take in can affect us; not just on a physical level but also on a mental and emotional level.  This might be through research on the internet or by seeing a professional for guidance.

5 years ago I came to understand that I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder.   This is a condition brought about by the lessening of light levels in the winter and can trigger amongst other things depression, anxiety and brain fog.  If I had visited a doctor and managed to get them to diagnose me they would have prescribed something along the lines of anti-depressants which at best would chemically balance my mood.  I really didn’t want to go down this path so I took to the internet and researched as much as I could.  I have now learned what vitamins and minerals will help me and I used a light box daily during the winter.  I can’t say it’s a perfect cure, but my life is so much better for it, and I continue researching.

For the last 10 years I have worked on other major issues in my life with complimentary therapies.  Receiving crystal healing regularly has helped me heal emotional scars from my first relationship and freed me from the anguish I was carrying that manifested in physical ways.

For me, complimentary therapies are tools that sit alongside traditional medicine in my toolbox. The trick is picking the right tool for the job.  If it’s a medical emergency, see a doctor, if it is an ongoing issue that can take some experimentation, look at other tools available.  Of course, there are so many complimentary therapies out there we have to be sure we pick the right one.  Some work best on physical issues, others are more for mental and emotional issues.  Once again, the internet is your freind, do your research.

So, why don’t people try these options?  I think there are a number of reasons. 

Firstly, scepticism tells them that there is no point.  That it is money for old rope and they can’t be helped.

I think this is a real shame, what have you got to lose, compared to what you might gain?

The next argument is that they can’t afford it. 

I admit there are people who are living on a very tight budget and there are therapists on the market that are charging vast amounts of money, this may make it difficult.  However how many people spend money on things they don’t really need? Clothes, cigarettes, alcohol, fancy gadgets?  Would it not be better to cut down on those and spend the money on your health and wellbeing?  As they say, if we don’t have our health, what do we have?

Of course, there is often the unspoken belief that we don’t deserve good health.  That somehow this is our lot and we just have to accept it.  I say that is rubbish; that we need to fight and take back our health.

Finally, and I think this is the deeper reason, to believe that complimentary therapies work would require a great shift in how we believe the human body, and the world around us, works.  To accept that taking something that has no active ingredient or receiving a therapy that works on an energetic level  requires a great shift, and I think most people aren’t prepared to take the risk.

Once again, I think it is a shame; that someone is more prepared to suffer than either budget better so they can afford a treatment, accept their own worth or take a leap of faith and try something new. 

Really, what DO you have to lose?

So, next time you sit there, fed up because the doctors don’t listen or the meds they have given you aren’t working as well as you hoped, think about what else you could do.  Look outside the box, take back your power and try something new.

Visit my website to learn about my healing practice  

http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/

So how good are these Bach remedies? Insight into Pine

Bach remedies really are subtly amazing.

I am currently at my day job and I made a mistake that has caused some fairly major IT wrangling.  The work that has been needed can be split down into 3 sections.  The first part was caused by my error but the other 2 parts have been caused by the first and second fixes fix not actually working.

After finding the second fix didn't work I felt guilty for the amount of hassle I have caused.  On noticing this I reached for the bottle of pine that I keep in my drawer at work, along with a number of other key remedies that help me deal with my day to day work.  2 drops in the dregs of my coffee and down they go.

Now I can look at the situation with clarity.  Yes I made a mistake and I need to be aware of not making it again, but the rest of the hassle is not the result of my failing, so why should I feel guilt for it?

Guilt in itself is a pointless emotion, next time you feel it take Pine and see if you gain a new perspective on a situation that allows you to learn from your mistakes or see that you actually did nothing wrong.

Visit my website to learn about my healing practice  

http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/

As always... work in progress

2 blogs in one day?  Just a little something I wanted to share.

One of the things I often find difficult about blogs and books is the impression I get as a reader that the writer knows it all; that they are at the end of their path and they are perfect.  I am aware that this is mostly triggered by my own feelings of inadequacy but I think it is more than that.

Please don’t ever get that impression of me.  Yes, I have come some way along my path, and I do feel I have learned a lot, but I am fully, and sometimes painfully aware that I still have a lot to learn and a lot to change.

I know the theories, I know how I should be living my life, but sometimes I am still the lost and angry child stamping her foot at Spirit saying “why me, why now?”

A very wise friend once said “if you’re still here, there are still lessons to be learned”.

So please, don’t think that I know all the answers, that I am a serene soul who walks through life filled with bliss.

Far from it.... I am still very much “work in progress”

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http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/

Gratitude... something that is often forgotten.

As I mentioned in a previous post, a few years ago I went through a major shake up in my life.  I look back on that time regularly as it was a time of enormous growth for me.  Although I had healed a lot of my wounds previous to that, this was the time that I put into practice a lot of what I had been learning.  In the past it had all been nice theory, it suddenly became vital to get me through one of the scariest times in my life.

One of the things I truly learned to understand was the power of gratitude.

I have never been one for "remember, there is always someone else out there worse off than you", this always felt trite and empty.  They didn't give any respect to how I was feeling at the time.  Yes, there are people out there worse off than me, but I am not in their lives, I am in mine.  Call me selfish, but when I am in a bad place it's all about me.

However, the concept of gratitude, for me is slightly different.  It brings the attention back to me and my life.  In the start I don't think gratitude changes anything material, but what it does to is give you a different viewpoint on your life.  When we don't have much, seeing what we do have, and expressing gratitude takes the focus off what is lacking.  It can be minor things but showing gratitude allows us to see the degree that small things change our lives.

One of the issues I had when I moved into my flat was that I wanted to take my cat with me but the front door didn't have a cat flap.  Charlie had always had a cat flap and came and went as he liked, there was no way I could live in a tiny flat and have him trapped inside while I was out.  My father, seeing how much I needed this to be resolved, went to the tip and found me a front door, exactly the same as the one on the flat, that was £35.  He fitted a catflap and changed the door for me.  Now Charlie could come live with me.

Every day I would give thanks for that door and what it had given to me.

When we cultivate a viewpoint of gratitude we start to see other things in life that make our lives better.  My car for instance, many people see their car as a think to get them from A to B, my car allowed me to rebuild my life.  My computer allowed me to connect with people when I couldn't put fuel in my car.

All of these are material things, but as we continue to build on this we can roll it out to other things.... think of a sunny day.  How much happier do we feel when the sun is out and we can breathe warm air?  Stop and appreciate it for what it is in that moment.  While our world is crumbling we could just think, yes but tomorrow it may be raining and I will have to deal with hard decisions.  Or, we could take a moment, take in a lung full of fresh air, feel the sun on our face and feel our strength to face the dark days coming increase.  Give thanks for that moment and you will find you walk a little taller and feel a little stronger.

When I lived on my own I journalled every day.  Just before I went to sleep I would pour my stress, fears and sorrows into that book as a way to clear my head.  I would always finish it with 3 statements.  The first statement would be of gratitude, I would find something to give thanks for from the day, even if it was just for the strength to get to the end of the day.  I would like to think that it helped me fall asleep knowing that the next day would also have something, no matter how small, that I could be thankful for.

Of course, if you also believe in a higher power, giving thanks shows that higher power that you appreciate everything it is doing for you.  I was acutely aware that Spirit wanted me to be in a good and happy place but there were things I had to learn before I could get there.  Showing gratitude, even for the hard things meant that I was able to face difficult times with a faith that there was a reason for it.  Yes there were times when I would fall and not be grateful at all, crying at Spirit asking why I was having to deal with this, but in calmer moments I was able to see the reasons and able to give thanks for the process I had to go through to solve the problems.

It's crazy, that year between March 2006 and April 2007 was the hardest year in my life, but I regularly give thanks for the lessons I learned, the experiences I had and the destination that was waiting for me.

Visit my website to learn about my healing practice  

http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/

Asprin, the wonder drug, or something a little more spiritual?

They are saying on the radio now that they are finding even more uses for Asprin and it made me wonder about whether there is a deeper reason why this drug is so amazing.

Willow, the tree, is amazing. I have spent may hours in the presence of a willow tree and found it to be utterly healing and soothing on an emotional level. I would rock up at it's base in utter despair, not knowing how to carry on, and after time sobbing, sharing and listening I would walk away feeling more able to deal with what life was throwing at me.

Also, the Bach Flower remedy Willow is for self pity, for wallowing in our despair and sorrows.

Some believe that physical illness is directly connected to our mental and emotional state..... is it possible that Asprin is carrying the energy of the willow tree in a form that can be accessed by people that may not be able to access the energy of the tree spirit directly?

Something to ponder maybe?

Visit my website to learn about my healing practice  

http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/

A little about me

I thought it would be helpful for people thinking about having a treatment to learn a little about me and the path that has led me here, to this point.

I currently live with my husband Gary and 3 cats in Wellingborough having lived for most of my life in South Northants.

For my day job I work in accounts and admin, it is not what fires me up but it pays the bills and allows me to not rely on charging high prices for my treatments.

I love gardening, riding my motorcycle, playing computer games, listening to audio books, and listening to anything from Vivaldi to Metallica. 

You may think that healers will be found wearing brightly coloured floaty tops and long skirts, but some days you will find me in a hoody and jeans or my bike kit.  Sometimes you will find me in a field listening to a willow whisper in my ear; other times you will find me on a bike rally field talking hero stories with the guys.

I eat a meat free diet and use cruelty free products as much as possible.  The Pagan tenet "do what you will but harm none" is a major part of my life.

I strongly believe in walking a path that has one foot in spiritual beliefs, but the other foot firmly planted in the mundane world.

And this is how I got here.....

I have been on a path of spirituality and self development since I was 18 when I broke up with my first boyfriend.  It was a difficult time for me and as I was coming out of the depths of a broken heart I was looking for a better way to face life.  I was terribly shy and had very little self esteem.  I was unemployed and depressed, but one day as I was walking round the local market I was drawn to a stall selling crystals.  This is where it all began for me; I came away with a rose quartz, a tigers eye and a clear quartz. They never left my pocket for years after that moment and I began learning all I could.

Jump forward another year and I was finally in a full time job.  There were people there that were open minded and were happy to listen to my problems.  It was suggested I read Susan Jeffers' Feel the Fear and do it Anyway. This book revolutionised the way I saw my life and the world around me.  I really saw that I could take control and make my own decision.

After that there was a series of chance meetings that led me into Paganism.  For many years I shunned what I considered religion having had bad experiences with Christianity as a child, but paganism made so much sense.  It all started with the realisation that there had to be a reason why flowers were beautiful.  Some flowers can function perfectly well being dull and boring, so why are some so stunning?  There has to be a higher power involved in their creation.

I spent a few years learning about paganism and talking to trees, you know they really are founts of knowledge and compassion.  I also found myself running a group for pagans in the area.  This group is still going and it has taught me so much over the last 9 years.

But, after a few years of working with paganism I realised that I couldn't limit myself to those sets of beliefs.  This was triggered by a moment of true faith.  I was driving home from my job in Kislingbury and I came to a fork in the road.  I could just go straight home, or I could go into town to a local crystal shop.  I didn't really have any money and I didn't really need anything but for some reason it seemed important to go.  I walked into the shop and declared that I had no idea why I was there; only to be told that they had just announced a Crystal Energy Practitioners course.  Well, I had to listen to the messages that were sent to me and I signed up there and then.

This opened the world of lightworking to me.  This is the other side of my coin to Paganism and is what balances the earth energy.

I studied hard and got my qualification, although I had absolutely no-where to offer healings.  I satisfied myself with applying the self development side of the course to my life and also started receiving crystal healing myself on a regular basis.  Included in these sessions were regression, visualisation work and of course crystal energy.  The things I experienced in those sessions blew my mind, helped me grow and healed old wounds.

At this time I also joined an online group run by Fabeku Fatunmise where I learnt more and more about co-creating with crystals, about the deeper levels of working with them rather than using them as tools.  What with this and what I was learning from the wonderful Hilary I was receiving healings from I was building up a deep understanding of how powerful the crystals can be in transforming and healing old issues.

Skip forward a few years... I am still having regular crystal healing but once again I found myself in a difficult relationship.  The healings had helped me grow from the shy girl who put herself last into a stronger person but it wasn't quite enough, there was still so much to do.  I was introduced to Bach Flower remedies by my 75 year old boss who swore by Rescue Remedy for everything from sleeplessness to headaches.  I was going through a particularly bad time and was willing to try anything to deal with the stress, so I started working with the remedies.

After a few months of blundering around with them, dowsing to see which remedy I should take because I didn't really know what they were for I decided to enrol in a home study course so I could learn about them and use them properly.  Despite having a poor memory for "facts and figures" I found I could remember the remedies quite well and completed the course with good results.  Soon I was ready to take the level 2 and practitioner levels.

Just before embarking on my pracitioner level studies I once again found myself at the end of a long term relationship.  My world fell apart around me, but I always clung on to my crystals and bach remedies.  I increased my crystal healing sessions to every week for a few weeks and managed to manifest everything I needed to rent and furnish a flat.  Spirit constantly gave to me just what I needed, when I needed it and my faith was sealed.  I had received  the proof I needed to trust Spirit and know that the guidance I get is safe to trust.

I completed my practitioner level with the bach remedies and, now living on my own, found I was able to offer treatments to people.  I was nervous to start with thinking that I would have forgotten all I had learnt with the crystals but it was all there, ready to be tapped into.  I also found that the right remedies came to mind in consultations.  It had taken about 10 years but I was finally able to help people in the way I had been helped.

It doesn't all stop there tho, the path of self-development never ends.  I am constantly learning about myself and working on issues that come up. I also still rely on the things I learnt right at the start.  One day I was reciting "feel the fear and do it anyway" as I found myself in the car of a friend of a friend of a friend travelling down to Southampton for the weekend to stay at the house of people I didn't really know . 

Since the break up with my ex  I decided that  I would say yes to everything that Spirit put in front of me, trusting that it was all for a reason.  I was determined  to jump through all the hoops Spirit put in front of me with the faith that it was leading me to something amazing.  Sometimes the lessons I learnt were HARD, painful and scary, and other times they led me to wonderful things.  In this instance I was led to meet my soul mate Gary and within 3 months he had moved from London and we were living together.

For me, life is not complete without some form of spirituality and it is wasted if there is no drive to understand and heal the self, however I also understand that for some people this is all twaddle and nonsense.  You know, that's fine.  I respect every person's choice in their lifestyle; so long as they are not harming anyone they can do, behave and believe whatever they like.  And so I understand that crystal healing and bach flower remedies are not for everyone, but having seen how they have changed my life, I encourage anyone to give them a go.

Visit my website to learn about my healing practice  

http://www.crystaloak.moonfruit.co.uk/