Which crystal should I use? Intellect or intuition?

I am often asked which crystal is right for which situation and I thought I would post a little about my philosophy on this.

 When working with crystals, or many other complementary therapies for that matter, it is important to turn the intellect off and turn the intuition on.

The whole human system of mind, body and spirit is complex and our brains don't hold all the information; there is much that goes on in our body that we are not aware of.  How often have people found that they did not know they were ill until they were VERY ill?  Surely if our brains knew what we needed to make us well we would know at the very first instance when something started to go wrong.

However, while our brains are blissfully unaware something is sending antibodies to deal with the problem.  People who are paralysed from the neck down still have organs that function despite the connection to the brain being severed. 

All this means there is a part of us outside the brain that knows what is going on and what we need.  This is what we tap into when we work with complementary therapies.

So how does this connect to picking a crystal?

If the brain doesn't know what we need to make us well there is no point in storing vast quantities of information so that we choose the right crystal on an intellectual level.  Instead, we have to quiet the brain and tune in to something more innate, the quiet voice that speaks to us when we we take control away from the brain.

It all sounds quite difficult but in reality we are given clues all the time.  We can get cravings for a certain foods and when we look into it we find that there is some nutrient in that food that our body needs.  We change our mind when we are traveling and find that if we had continued on that path something terrible would have happened.  These things aren't luck, this is us listening to our intuition.

So, when you want to work with a crystal and you have a purpose in mind, don't reach for the books; don't try and remember what you were told.  Simple look at the crystals with the work you would like to do held in your mind and see which one catches your eye.  Don't question it, don't doubt it, just go with it.

As with anything we try to learn, the more we listen to this little voice the better we hear it and the easier it gets for us to know just what we need in any given moment.

Of course, once you have learnt to trust your intuition there is nothing stopping you looking the crystal you have chosen up in a book to see what insight you can glean from your choice.  It is important though to not discard the choice if you don't like what you read, trust it was for the best and all may become clear later.

Enjoy connecting to your stone spirits and working with your intuition.

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Olive - the recovery remedy

Has Christmas worn you out; entertaining, cooking, cleaning, dealing with families? 

Maybe you are weary of working hard in the cold and dark weather and feel you have no energy left as we go into the coldest part of the year.

Bach Remedy Olive is for exhaustion, whether that be mental, physical, emotional or "all of the above". 

Dr Bach wrote that Olive was for "Those who have suffered much mentally or physically and are so exhausted and weary that they feel they have no more strength to make any effort. Daily life is hard work for them, without pleasure." 

 A couple of drops of this remedy could make all the difference. 

Bach remedies can be taken with other medications and have no negative side effects . 

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The importance of grounding

In the time since I started working with crystals, and particularly since I started receiving regular healings, I have become increasingly aware of the importance of grounding and I wanted to share a little here about what it is, why we do it and how to do it.

So, what is grounding?

Along with the physical body that can be seen and touched we also have an energy field, some call this the aura or merkaba.  When someone stands too close and we feel a shiver it is our aura that is being affected by that of the other person.

The aura is anchored to our body via the energy centres that are often called the chakras and information is passed to our conscious awareness through them.  One of the most important chakras that anchors everything together is the Earth Star and this is situated 6" below our feet connecting us to the earth's core.  This connection to the earth's core is what grounds us.

So why is grounding so important?

When we are calm and balanced our aura reaches about arm's length away from our centre and is like a bubble stretching above our heads, below our feet, in front, behind us and to the sides and it acts like a safety shield protecting us from harmful energies.  When we become stressed many people's Earth Star chakras shut down and we lose our connection to the earth.  This causes our aura to shift, possibly expanding to a great distance or holes may appear in it becoming like a fishing net allowing harmful energies to leak in. 

We may not be aware of it but this can lead to us becoming clumsy, dizzy, anxious, easily upset or ill.

It isn't only stress that can unground us, alcohol, drugs, fear and shock can also cause this to happen.  If you have ever fainted you will have experienced becoming ungrounded suddenly.  Your energy field will have become completely detatched from your physical body. When you see someone who has had a car accident and they are dazed, that is being ungrounded.  

For some, being able to release their connection to the earth is a protective mechanism.  Lightworkers and HSPs are particularly prone to this and many have never been grounded in their lives.

If we are continuously ungrounded our whole energy system will be affected and we find that we fatigue easily, are stressed more often, easily swayed by other people's opinions or unkind thoughts.  We are more susceptable to harmful energies and we may get ill more often, possibly progressing to chronic illness.

So, as you can see being grounded is super important.

So, how do I ground?

There are many techniques suggested for grounding.  I have a visualisation  process that I use that involves sending cords down into Mother Earth.  I also have favourite stone friends that I work with in times when I know I am likely to become anxious or when I am meditating to keep me anchored.  However I have found a very simple method that anyone can use at any time in any place and it only takes a few moments.  It also isn't hard to remember.

 Basic Grounding Process
If you are in a situation where you are stressed and feeling anxious or panicky take a few moments to follow these steps.

• Put your feet flat on the floor and put ALL of your awareness onto them.
• Breath deeply and as you breath block out everything that is going on around you and sense your feet.
• If you are wearing shoes or socks feel how they encase your feet.  How soft are they? 
• If you have bare feet feel the floor beneath them, is the carpet soft or is it a hard floor. 
  
• Feel your toes and gently move them.
• Shut everything out and simply become just your feet.    
• Now feel gravity working on your feet. 
• Can you feel how it pulls your feet onto the floor?  
• Feel how heavy your feet are as gravity pulls on them.
• Stay with that for just a moment longer, breathing calmly.

Doing this should help you feel calmer and more present in the moment.

 

What if that doesn't work?

As I have mentioned, lightworkers and HSPs are prone to being ungrounded for most of their life.  This is because their own energies are often of a higher frequency to that of the world around them and means it is hard for them to function properly on the earth as they are.  Imagine someone who has spent their life at a high altitude, coming down to sea level can be uncomfortable. (This also works the other way and can explain why some find it hard to meditate).

Unfortunately, although for these people it is much nicer floating through life, it has the negative repercussions mentioned above.  This is one of the reasons why many healers have chronic illness themselves. 

We are born into this world to interact with it and as such we need to be present at all times, and that requires being grounded.  For those that find this hard it may be necessary to have regular healings to help them slowly become accustomed to grounding.  There may be fears or past life karma to be healed to allow sustainable grounding.

It took 8 years of monthly healing sessions and a final regression for me to be reliably grounded and I am still learning to deal with the world from that standpoint.  However, as hard as it can be at times, I know it is progress that I stay grounded even when life throws stress my way.  In time this anchor will allow me to be a stronger person and a better healer.

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"In the name of Spirit"... or is it?

So often we see and hear people doing or saying things “in the name of Spirit” or because they have been “guided” to do so. 

This raises the question, how do you know you are guided by Spirit?  Is it possible that your ego has got involved?

Throughout history atrocities have been committed in the name of a higher power.  At the end of Chapter 2 of  his book Mein Kampf Hitler states “And so I believe today that my conduct is in accordance with the will of the Almighty Creator. In standing guard against the Jew I am defending the handiwork of the Lord” .  Going back further the crusades were all "in the name of God".

So how do we know?  Clearly what Hitler was doing was beyond heinous and we look back on the crusades and see nothing but barbarism, how can this be the work of Spirit?

  

When we find ourselves believing we are being guided by Spirit the first question to ask is “does this harm anyone?” or “does this affect another’s free will?”

Personally I believe that Spirit never wishes harm on another soul.   In the case of Hitler or the crusades it is clear to see that his answer would be yes, many many people were harmed by these actions, so maybe something other than a higher power was involved.

We should also, wherever possible, ensure that we do not affect another’s free will.  In the case of healing; although we feel this gift is given to us by spirit, I believe we should not send it without the recipient’s agreement.  To do so would be to allow ego to take over.  Who are we to decide that this person needs healing?  In sending healing are we taking away this person's opportunity for conscious growth?

·         Another test would be to ask “who is to gain from this?”

This is not so simple to answer.  Often, at first glances it may appear that other people will gain from our actions; but what about being seen as a generous,  loving or wise person?  If the person draws attention to what they have done, is it possible there is more to do with ego than first thought?

In the end, before we claim that we are doing something in the name of a higher power we should sit for a moment and ask ourselves “why am I doing this?”.  Dig deep, really search and see if there is any ego involved.  Do we feel the need to tell others that we are doing this? 

Of course, sometimes we are guided by Spirit, for a hidden purpose.  There are times when at first glances a person's actions appear to remove free will and cause harm, but the final result is of much greater freedom and healing.  On a smaller scale we may be guided to do something so we can learn how our ego can get too big for its boot.

This leads to the question are we guided by Spirit all the time, or does our ego get involved more often than we think?  It is up to you to decide.....

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Walking your own path, your way.

I've just read a lovely post on a facebook feed that suggests that we should decide on an intent for that day and then state it to whatever higher powers we believe in to help keep on track for the day.

My initial response was that this is such a lovely idea.  They were stating their intent to each of the directions, Mother Earth and Father Sky and it sounds such a beautiful process.  I next thought that I should do that every day.  I am aware that I stray from my path easily and this would be a good way to keep on my case.

As I sat with that idea a grim realisation sneaked in that was not so nice.  It went like this.. "here you go, thinking up another morning ritual that you think will keep you connected to Spirit through the day.  You know what will happen; you'll do it for about 2 days and then it will be forgotten.  Then, when you remember what you were going to do you will beat yourself up and think  Other people can do this, why can't I?"

So I thought I would write about the deeper issue rather than beat myself up about the fact that no matter what I try to do as a "spiritual observance" every day within a few days it is gone and forgotten, in fact within a few minutes the connection is forgotten.

You see I love the idea of rituals, simple little acts that supposedly help me stay connected, but in reality they simply don't work for me.  When I see someone else doing it I get caught up in the beauty and romance of it and want a piece of it, but in reality it is just not part of my path.  Not in a strict routine format anyway.

Yes, there are times when I use ritual.  When I meditate I follow the same grounding and connecting process.  When I do a healing I start with the same process to help me connect to the client and put my ego away.  But none of these are done on a schedule, they are performed as and when they are needed, and I think this is the essence of what goes wrong for me when I try to start yet another daily observance.  Spirituality just isn't structured for me.

There is an even deeper core issue here, the idea of how we should express our spirituality.  When I set up my Crystaloak facebook profile I went through adding all the kinds of people I thought I should have on it.  I have gained from this by meeting some wonderful people and been able to have the type of conversation you only get when lightworkers meet.  But on a less positive side is that I am surrounded by people who appear to be better at "being spiritual" than me.  People who perform these daily rituals and seem to be so connected.

Don't get me wrong, this is no judgement on them, it seems to be working wonderfully for them and I honour that.  But, I have to remember who it is that is walking this path; me, and only me.  As much as it is great to learn from these people I have to remember, accept and learn to love what works for me and what doesn't, and this goes for everyone else.

When you first awaken to your spirituality it is very easy to cast around you looking for guidance as to how you should be doing what it is you are doing.  To start with it is very helpful to try on different concepts and see how they fit, but in the end, to gain the depth of connection, you can only do it in a way that is right for you.

So next time I hear about a lovely little ritual that I can do every day I am going to try and remember that if it doesn't stick it's ok... it's just me walking my own path my way, and that is all I can do.

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The book that started it all..

Those of us who are on a path of personal growth are likely to have a book that changed everything for us... a point in our lives when we read something that made all the difference.

For me it was when I was given a copy of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. This book changed my life and taught me that everyone feels fear, it's those that ignore it and get on with life anyway that are the ones that succeed.

So, if you find that your life is full of fear, whether it be a basic level anxiety or a deep fear, it is worth looking at this book for guidance.  It isn't flashy with brash statements that you instantly react to with distrust, it is full of caring and supportive advice that helps you face your fears one step at a time.

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Doing what you love? Or loving what you do?

All over facebook these days you will find those inspirational little memes that tell us how to live a happy life.  Many of them instruct us to follow our dreams 100% and all will be peachy, but I have to say that I personally find them offensive and short sighted.

Don't get me wrong, I do believe that we can manifest our perfect reality if we put our minds to it, but I don't think it is as simple as it is made out to be, and underneath the sugary surface is something that is more bitter to taste.

Here is an example:

It sounds wonderful doesn't it? With trust in spirit we can ditch our job and go swim with dolphins and everything will be ok.

So what is wrong with this?  Why shouldn't we follow our dreams?
No reason at all, but we have to be realistic about the amount of work needed and the ultimate effect.  Can we really just hand our notice in and expect the world to go with what we have in mind?


The first part of manifesting something is intent which is bound in with faith.  The teacher Kryon uses the metaphor of jumping into a lake when talking about working with intent to create a reality.

When we stand on the edge of the lake we know many things, we know that when we jump off the earth gravity will pull us into the water, we also know that once we jump there is no going back, and finally, we know will will be getting wet.

All of these things are guaranteed;  there is no danger of gravity not doing its thing or for the water to not be there to cushion our fall when we land.

But life isn't like jumping in a lake, we are not working with laws of physics that do not fail us so we have to trust that what we believe will happen actually does happen.

In many aspects of life it doesn't matter if it goes wrong, we can try things out, make changes and if it wasn't quite like we hoped we can walk away.  This safety net allows us to take small risks and I encourage people to do that.  Feel the fear, do it anyway and you never know what wonderful things might happen.

But, I feel these annoying little quotes point to much bigger things in life.  They are often worded in a way that implies one of the biggest aspects of our lives, our full time job.

How many of us get up on a Monday morning and face a week doing a job we don't find inspiring?  I know I do and almost everyone in my social circle is the same.  Some are lucky to have jobs they love, but it's rare.  So these little quotes suggest we could just drop it all, follow our hearts and all will be well.

Think about that for a moment and think about the metaphor of jumping in a lake.  Do you have 100% faith that you can hand your notice in today and at the end of the week have the money you will need to pay the bills?

I don't think there are many people out there that have that much faith in their higher power or their ability to manifest; and yet this is what the meme implies.  There is no talk of preparation.  We should be able to ditch what we are doing and either walk straight into our perfect job or trust that pennies will fall from heaven so we can swim with the dolphins.

And this is where my problem stems from.  When we read these quotes it sets up a thought process that is not what the poster intended.  This is how I think it actually goes:

Person reads the quote and thinks 
Hmm, yes, you're right.  I should be doing something I love.  
I hate my job, it's so boring and doesn't fulfil me in any way.   Everyone else has a job they love, why can't I do it? 
What would I love to do all day? 
I know, I would love to swim with dolphins, how amazing would that be?  
There are people who get paid for that aren't there?
So, what do I need to do?  Well for a start I need to be where the dolphins are.
Not many dolphins in Wellingborough, I'll need to move. 
Hmm, will have to sell the house.  So I'll get it on the market.
While I'm waiting for the estate agent to come I can hand in my notice at work and look at where I can find dolphins.
There are no reliable dolphins in the UK,  I need to go somewhere else in the world.
I'll look into how much it will cost to move to where the dolphins are.

Also, what jobs are there out there that pay to swim with wild dolphins?

Hang on I would need to be a marine biologist?  I have qualifications in horticulture and bookkeeping, I need a degree?
That's a 3 year course at least.  How am I going to pay the  bills?
What about my family?  How would they feel if I asked them to let me up sticks and move to the Caribbean?

But the text says I should do what I love and everything will be fine!  My life sucks!

And so we find ourself feeling like we are stuck in job we hate, not following our dreams and less than adequate.


So what is the answer?

For me, the concept of doing what you love is missing the point of true happiness.  It's easy to be happy when everything around us is lovely, but there is no substance to that happiness because it is based on everything going our way.  As soon as something happens that is not to our taste our world comes crashing down.  We don't learn to find the silver lining in the cloud if there are never any clouds.

This is where learning to Love What You Do comes in.  Same words, just in a different order but such a different meaning.

If we accept that there are things in life that are necessary but not particularly nice we can start to find ways to love them, to look for those silver linings; and there is 2 ways to go about this:

Gratitude - Look for the aspects of the situation that actually give you something good.  My job bores me senseless, but:

• It pays for me to have a lifestyle that I enjoy. 
• It gives me a reason to get out of bed every day.
• I have people around me so I am not on my own all the time and there is always a chance of making wonderful friends.
• Sometimes it gives my brain a work out.
• I am not at home so I don't have to do housework.

See how I can start to feel grateful for a job that is less than perfect?


Secondly, we can use the concept of "acting as if".  This sounds like I shouldn't work but from experience I can assure you it does.  We act as if we enjoy our job, we act as if it is important to us, and in time we find that we do enjoy it and it is important.  Try it, it really does work.

In this process we are learning to be happy no matter what.  Rather than our happiness being based on external situations and things there is a foundation of self reliance.  If we managed to get the job swiming with dolphins, how scared would we be, deep down, of losing it?  But if we can do a job that doesn't initially inspire us but still be happy it doesn't matter if we have to find another job.

But, I also think the problem with the opening quote runs deeper and is even more damaging to society.

What happened if everyone in the world decided to jack in their boring job and follow their dreams?
Lets take just one job that many people take for granted; rubbish collection.

How many people do you think aspire to be bin men?  Do you think there are enough kids in schools saying to their careers teachers "I want to get up at 3am every morning and pick up everyone else's rubbish"?

Personally I very much doubt it.  And yet we are ALL supposed to follow our dreams.  What state would the world be in if we did that?


So, before you repost that meme that tells people we need to follow our dreams remember that if we all did that society would start to struggle very quickly.  When you throw rubbish in the bin, give thanks for the fact that there are people out there that aren't following their dreams, they're getting up in the morning and doing what needs to be done, and you know what some of them may actually learn to love it.

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